I remember the days when a weekly check in if not daily was the norm for me and my buddies and life had a different kind of pressure and was full of a different kind of grace.
What I’ve noticed with the less constant contact is a little sneaky factor that I never noticed before. … many of us are looping.
What’s looping? Well its what my husband and I say when we get stuck on something and repeat it more that once. We laugh at ourselves, acknowledge and try to shift the loop. But from a bigger perspective I’ve notice looping can happen for years.
Some of the big goals I set for myself 5 years ago have been accomplished, I learned, earned and am still progressing. Some other goals though, some of the ones I’ve wanted quite badly (or so I thought) are on my mind on a daily, weekly, yearly, basis…
What the heck?
I’m not going to go into the why, I couldn’t even begin to tell you why after gaining some unwanted weight over 5 years ago, I have repeatedly set a goal to shed that wei...
I heard this saying a while back about being a crab in a bucket. It was regarding friendship and being aware of who you spend the most time with. Sometimes friendships can be like that. You are all in the bucket together. Then one day you figure out a way to leave the bucket and hit the deep blue. You are torn. You have grown and are excited to explore but what about your friends in the bucket? Well, when you reach out to some they may just pull you down back into the bucket, while others will take the “claw” and check out the view with you.
I have been very blessed to have some friends who have all left the bucket with me.
In fact, this weekend I am connecting with my 3 best friends from elementary school. We are all very different and have each taken different roads. From spontaneous to planned, married, unmarried, kids, step kids, no kids, one career for 15 years, 15 careers in 15 years. We are all unique and different and oddly the same. Trave...
About 10 years ago I had a good friend whom I used to meet with on a weekly basis. We would go over our goals for the week as we were both trying to get our new businesses off the ground. We created categories together and each week we would rate from a scale of 1-10 how happy we were in each category and what little thing (or big ) we could do to raise our level of happiness in each category. Every week we would meet and it would be the same. She would have achieved all of her business goals but had put almost no time into self care, slow down, spiritual connection categories, while I was doing AWESOME in the self care, bubble bath, mediation categories but never seemed to achieve my “harder” businessy goals. We would laugh and try and come up with ways for me to business up and her too chill out. I was always looking for a way to find ease with my goals and would often approach them with no rhyme or reason....
When you were just an acorn, you fought hard for the light and water to grow. Your roots began in Africa, born and raised in Kenya you spent your formative years in boarding schools, experienced wealth and then loss when everything was taken away. In your school days the teachers beat you for wrong answers on tests, you ran miles to evade school bullies, sold candy in the school yard saving a small fortune which you then gave selflessly when it was needed. Every day, every year you fought and found light to grow.
When you left school you joined the army, you became an elite paratrooper with nothing to lose, you set eyes on Mom and you knew she was the one. As the story goes you asked her out everyday for weeks until she finally out of sheer exasperation she said yes, and on that first date you said; “you are the woman I am going to marry”.
Just as you pursued Mom, you went after all your dreams relentlessly. I’m not sure you ever took no for an answer.
Last year I had the opportunity to train a new team member in Calgary. She had popped up in my back office a couple months earlier and was doing great things. We had never met but had spoken almost daily on the phone. My husband and I decided it would be a good move for me to head out there and do some one on one training with her. Looking back, this was one of those decisions that forever changed my business; at the time it just felt like the right thing to do. I offered to fly out to attend some appointments with her and do a presentation if she could get some friends together.
I messaged a crossline distributor(Candy) in Calgary who was holding weekly meetings and told her I was coming out. She asked if she could join our meeting and bring a few others that were working their businesses. They were a nice group of crosslines working alongside eachother and we were all feeling like we could connect and grow together. Candy organized a space for me to present in, I sai...
The first day my husband Dave and I met was also the first day I ever rock climbed. It was a multi pitch epic climb, it took us a good part of the day. I was terrified the entire time not trusting the rope to hold me if I fell, not trusting my shoes to stick to the rock and not knowing where we were going or how far it was to make it to the top. It was an experience bordering on traumatic and I was hooked.
It was love at first sight that day for climbing and for Dave. In the same way we fell that day, we fell for our Network Marketing company 2 years ago.
One of the first things you learn as a climber is how to communicate with your climbing partner. Your partner says ON BELAY, and you say BELAY ON. Meaning you have checked your gear and are attached to the the rope. You are letting each other know you are prepared and safe to climb. Then you let them know you are climbing by saying; CLIMBING. They say CLIMB ON and you climb.
In this life of Social Media connections and busy lifestyles I will be the first to admit people should do more personal connecting in relationship. My job for the last two years has been focussed on helping people and business owners be more connected to the relationships in their lives.
So to say that I have become rather reliant on this not so new world of social media and instant messaging, likes, and comments is a rather vulnerable statement. But it is true. There it is. I am a wife, a step mom of 2, a business owner of 2 and life is full tilt at the moment. I like to to see what’s happening in others lives, see their pics, comment, like and do my best to connect in more personal ways when time permits.
About 3 years ago, I noticed that a post of mine got a lot of hits. It was pictures of my husband and I hiking a mountain together and it received a lot of likes. I’m not sure why that day I decided to look at WHO liked our post but I did. It was not typi...
Saying yes is sometimes all it takes to change the entire trajectory of one’s life. I was remembering a YES I said the other day that did just that.
I had said YES to an opportunity (an entirely different YES and an equally profound one for a different story) and was working hard at sharing the opportunity when a colleague of mine asked me if she could interview me on a webinar to share a little of my story. I said YES.
I said YES even though I thought I might puke on the spot. I said YES even though I thought no one would want to know my story. The thought of going on a webinar, something I had just learned about logging on to, let alone speaking on was terrifying, but here it was. An opportunity TOTALLY out of my comfort zone which I KNEW would help me grow and I said YES. I did okay on the day. I didn’t puke, I didn’t do amazing but it was not an epic fail either. It was just another Tuesday night webinar for everyone else but for me it had been a massive win. I fac...
On May 6 1954, during an athletic meeting between the British AAA and Oxford University, Roger Bannister ran a mile and crossed the finish line with a time of 3 minutes, 59.4 seconds, he not only broke a record but he broke through the “four minute mile” psychological barrier. Previous to this record being broken it was believed humanly impossible for a mile to be run in less than 4 minutes.
John Landy a great runner of that time period had never broken the 4 minute mile but just 56 days after Roger Bannisters breakthrough, Landy ran the four minute mile in 3 minutes and 57.9 seconds.
Within 3 years, 16 other runners had broken the barrier too.
I heard this the other day and immediately wondered “what’s MY 4 minute mile?”
The powerful combination of believing something is possible and going for it is undeniable.
One way to raise your belief in believing something is possible is to create I AM statements.
Last year for over a year I would look in the mirror and repeat the words I AM an E...