This Thanksgiving I was reflecting on our old sailing trips with family. Dad taught us how to sail. Or rather, I read alot of books down below or on the nets in the sun while my mom, dad & brother did all the hard stuff. When the sea was rough or wind strong however we all sat above deck and sailed together. When the wind was calm Dad would use terms like port and starboard, aft and stern. When the sea was rough all sailing terminology went out the window; it became right and left, front and back. It still makes me laugh.
For a few months Dave and I have been at sea, sails fluttering and flapping, reading the wind, double checking the charts. We’ve been a couple of degrees off. There have been some gusts, flutters and moments of inertia. We are learning to lean in.
During this particular voyage I’ve read or listened to a lot of books. A lot.
As I look back on the titles I realize there’s a theme. Here are my top 3 favourites.
Every once in awhile it’s good to take a break... #nobrainer right? Well maybe for you but I’ve been terrified. Terrified that stepping away would kill the drive in me I’ve carried for the last couple of years.
Afraid to pause. You know, like when you have been going so hard for so long. Running. If I stop to take a breath, will I run again?
I’ve never run this far this for this long. Just a little further, just a little more. You see I’ve never been a goal oriented runner before. I might have run or had a good idea of where I wanted to go but I was never truly attached to the outcome. If I got there it always felt a bit miraculous and the path to get there a bit haphazard.
Then a shocking realization the other day that I work for myself And no one but me is going to tell me to stop or to go for that matter.
This boss is tough... I KNOW her! She’s capable of so much and capable of not doing anything! I’ve seen her take time outs for months in the past and she can’t...
When there is something you want so bad but year after year you don’t achieve it.
For example - weight loss, 🏋🏻♂️ bigger monthly Cheques, multiple streams of income, 💰 time with family, a vacation, taking your business to the next level, 🏅 forgiving someone, something off your bucket list, better health ...
Look for your WHY! The deep why, the true why, then run at it like your life depends on it.
The old adage where there’s a WILL there’s a way is true but it’s also NOT true!! I know lots of people who have the will to quit a habit, shed some pounds, make extra money, rank adavance in their company..., I personally had the will to lose 25 pounds but for 5 years couldn’t drop the weight no matter what ( or so I told myself.) everyone told me I was in my 40s, it was my hormones, it was my metabolism, it was impossible… Then I discovered my WHY and a whole new world opened up. I got committed, got an accountability partner, ( t...
I have always loved jigsaw puzzles. My Mom and I would spend hours in the winter evenings putting together 1000’s of pieces, Mom always choose quite hard puzzles, large puzzles, fun puzzles, beautiful puzzles, interesting puzzles.
Puzzling was serious business and a little silly in our house. 100 teapots, a collection of cottages, an eagle flying high, a picnic…
If you ever saw us puzzle together you would laugh, like a well oiled machine we would begin the process, you see we had a system, we would dump out the pieces, then sort through every one of them turning them right side up and separating the straight edge pieces, the outside pieces from the others. Then together we would work on the frame.
I loved the sorting, not just finding the outside pieces but the separating colours, sky pieces, people pieces, reds, purples blues… finding the pieces with the line through, finding the all the cherry blossom pieces. It was therapeutic, rhythmic. Mom would put me on speci...
When I was a little girl one of my favourite songs was a song from bible camp. “Blind Man” I used to sing it at the top of my lungs direct to God. Holding nothing back. Faith of a child. I have a clear memory of standing at the bow of our family sail boat, big waves, leaning into the wind knowing without a shadow of a doubt God was there… I would sing my heart out, I would tell Him what was on my mind. I knew he was there Listening. Loving. So Big. Bigger than feelings. There. Answering. With the wind, with the waves.
My conversations with God are quieter now. Not so dramatic, more practical too;
Lord give me courage to be my best, to love, to inspire, to write, to speak, to be faithful, to step outside my comfort zone, to follow you…. Then a quiet listening for answers, for promptings.
Today I found myself humming that long loved song,
“To pursue a goal regardless of any obstacles or criticism”
Recently Dave and I went for a weekend adventure together on our “new” boat. We loaded up on soup and crackers, chocolate and cheese and hit the ocean, ready for some much needed time together.
We have both been going full tilt for a couple of years now. We used to commit our weekends to each other and the kids. On the rare days we worked a Saturday it was for the tree service and we did it together, me dragging branches, him paying me in smiles from the tree. We were working hard together, building our company, but still getting our quality time in.
When our businesses expanded they started to leak in to Saturdays, Sundays becoming recovery days (laundry, groceries, clean up from week, estimates that needed to be done, clients that needed to be called etc) and just like that our weekends together disappeared.
Recently we heard a sermon at church about taking a rest day, taking time to allow growth...
Have you ever shared your dream with someone just to have them squash your excitement in a second? They say "you won't get it" " that doesn't happen for most people" "That's just a pipe dream" OR they take you down when you share your opportunity... "they have ZERO interest in pursuing that dream with you?"
What happens next is crucial - Did you recover? Do you recover? Do you get back up like a puppy looking for that next treat or do you stay down, shrug your shoulders and agree with them. Wonder "what was I thinking?"
Did you ever notice that there are a few different categories when it comes to the subject of dreamers? Big dreamers, small dreamers, starry eyed dreamers. You have your dream squashers, determined to point out the negative of any dream which comes within three feet of them. They might tell you they are being realistic but it feels a bit like they are just being mean? Then you have your "action" dreamers who are running n...
Language is a powerful thing and how we use it decides our future on a daily basis!
At this point unless you have made no contact with the outside world in some years you have heard of the power of positive thinking and positive word. In fact though some people believe this to be a newish trend the power of the word goes right back to biblical time and is taught in the bible.
Today I’m going to mention one powerful little trick that was very impactful for me when I first learnt it. I’ve taught my family the same rule and we all call each other out on it when we slip up. This word is tricky and sneaks into everyday language and self talk!
Are you shoulding me?
If you are like most people, this word inherently comes with a level of guilt and weight and a not so nice little nagging feeling. Examples?
I should work harder
I should have had dinner organized but I was so busy today
My friend Betty and I decided to go to Mexico together in November some years ago. She had her dive ticket and suggested I got mine before we went so we could do some diving together. It was really far outside of my comfort zone but I took my lessons in freezing BC waters in a dry suit, got certified and was excited and nervous to try out the warmer waters of Mexico.
We found some other experienced divers at the resort, they had organized a more expert dive in a forest of coral with a local dive guide and Betty was pretty stoked to be invited to a less touristy dive. I was also stoked but slightly nervous as I had never dived with a group, never dived in deep waters and never dived without my instructor. I was worried I would make a mistake or hold the group back.
Everyone assured me there was enough experience in the group to make up for my lack of knowledge and we were in good hands. We left first thing the next morning.
I was paired with one of our expert buddies and we...